Most of us don’t have healthy models of how to deal with anger, and then when it spills out in our churches, ministry teams, and small groups, we wonder why we have troubles. If we are to address issues of anger in our own lives and be equipped to help others in...
You may have heard of the fight or flight response. When we feel threatened, we either flee or we lash out. Fight and flight are two sides of the same coin– anger and fear. But there is a third option: fight, flight, or freeze. Freeze, in this case, means...
Once we have learned to recognize and identify the way we personally express our anger, we can learn to distinguish right and wrong ways of managing it. We always have a choice about how we handle it, no matter what the other person is doing. That places the...
In my family, we were generally encouraged to share positive emotions but not negative ones. So as I was growing up and even into adulthood, I’d say, “I’m not angry. I’m just frustrated.” But I’ve since learned that words like...
I’ve just finished my first year of volunteering at the Salvation Army teaching a class in anger management. It’s been a really valuable experience for me. There’s nothing quite like teaching something to get the content of what’s being taught really ingrained...
John Draper of the Baltimore Baptist Association used the phrase “moving at the speed of God.” It means keeping pace with what God is doing. Sometimes he’s moving quickly. Other times he’s moving more slowly. It’s not up to us to determine the speed, but to keep pace...
