I was working with a group recently on the topic of discipleship. The question at hand was, “What makes a disciple-making disciple? What qualities or behaviors are we trying to develop?” I shared my new “tree of discipleship” approach as one option. As the...
This Friday morning I just wanted to share with you an anonymous comment from a coaching client on the value coaching can bring: I left the office on Friday feeling great. Nothing much had changed, it was still cold and grey outside. I realized that what had changed...
As someone approaches learning a new skill, coaches need to approach them with three types of questions. These different types of questions are progressive, building on one another, and people aren’t able to process all of them at once. The “what” questions: ...
It used to make me so angry when– after I’d spent hours helping someone process whether or not they wanted to embark on a particular journey– they’d show up at the orientation only to say, “Now where is it exactly that we’re going again?” Outwardly I’d...
Remember the story where Jesus approaches a man in need of healing and asks him, “Do you want to get well?” (John 5:6) I used to think that was such a strange question. Of course he wants to get well! What invalid wouldn’t want to get well? Yet one of the observations...
In many cases where you are the supervisor, you may want to take a coaching posture as much as possible. However, a coaching posture requires that the person you’re coaching is the one who sets the agenda. The agenda they set may or not be most strategic for...
