When I was speaking recently in the masters program at Life Pacific College, a student told me it was transforming for him to realize that he was always expecting others to make space in their life for him, but he wasn’t willing to do the same. He was always the coach, comfortable being in the giving position, but not so comfortable being in the growing position. He was always telling people they needed to make time to prioritize their coaching relationship with him, but he wasn’t in a coaching relationship himself.

It was life-changing for him when that struck him. How can we expect others to value coaching if we don’t? If we don’t need it, why would other people need it? Are we so much better than others that we don’t have places to grow?

Being in a coaching relationship gives us the opportunity to be vulnerable, transparent, and authentic. It gives us the opportunity to grow.