Open vs closed questions

Open vs closed questions

I’ve noticed that people who ask closed questions are most often trying to lead the other person, trying to anticipate the answer, or trying to validate their own perspective. Essentially, they are trying to control or steer the conversation to a predetermined...
Getting there early

Getting there early

One way to practice treating people with respect is by getting to appointments on time or early. When you leave for an appointment, always leave enough margin for the unexpected—which will often happen. By the same token, always bring something with you to do or to...
Intuitive leaders in 8th grade

Intuitive leaders in 8th grade

An 8th grade girl I know had the following conversation with her mom: Daughter: “I think now that I’m going into high school next year, there might be enough kids in the church youth group for them to start having a separate group for the high schoolers. They could...
The intentional leader

The intentional leader

Here’s one thing I have discovered about leaders in any culture: They’re just a bit more intentional and strategic than the other folks. I watched a leader in Honduras who had a very relaxed way of making connections with people. He’d drop by, talk for a while. In the...
Leadership: recognized, not appointed

Leadership: recognized, not appointed

During my time in Honduras, I found the way that handle leadership fascinating. Leaders are not appointed– they are recognized through results. One of their titles of leadership is “extension chain teacher.” That title indicates someone who has raised up 10...
Recalibrate

Recalibrate

When you have a compass, you need to recalibrate it depending on your current location. With the electronic compass on my iPhone I move the phone in a figure 8 several times to allow it to calibrate to my current location. I can’t just pull it out and use it. If the...