One of the things coaches least like to do is take stock of how well they are doing in their coaching relationships. The very line of inquiry puts us in a vulnerable position. After all, people would tell us if something was wrong, wouldn’t they? Or we’d sense it,...
The challenges of leading a team are legion: conflicting personalities, getting everyone on the same page, turf wars. Often one of the best ways to avoid some of the negatives is to focus on the positives. Instead of waiting for problems to arise, what constructive...
One of the most important characteristics of great leaders is a focus on people development over task accomplishment. It’s more important to develop those God has entrusted to our care to the fullest extent possible. That’s true even when it doesn’t line up with what...
One great use of coaching is helping people identify their dreams and passions. In a sense, that’s the core of coaching: to help people find the direction God is calling them. It’s easy to assume people already know what they want… and deep down that may be true. Most...
For the next 30 days, every time someone asks you an advice-type question, instead of giving them an answer, them this question: “What do you think?” Then discipline yourself to simply listen and help them unpack their thoughts. When I tried this experiment myself, I...
Most powerful questions are simple and they are short—usually 5 words or less. What do you want? What would it look like? Who can help you? What are you hearing from God? These are short, simple questions. Powerful questions have no long preamble or explanation on the...
