When we see someone doing something poorly, what’s our natural inclination?

To tell them what their problem is, of course. How else would they fix it unless we tell them what they’re doing wrong? Advice, “constructive” criticism, unsolicited feedback… these are our defaults. The problem with them is that they almost never work. Few of us are motivated by criticism. We may change behaviors as a result of it, but it’s a change that’s driven by fear.

What’s the alternative? Change and growth that stem from focusing on our strengths and seeing them affirmed.

Watch a short video I recently uploaded onto youtube where I tell the humbling story of how I learned to preach. It really illustrates an important principle:  Affirmation is the foundation of change. Consider how this principle might apply with the young leaders you’re trying to develop.