Using coaching skills in everyday life

Using coaching skills in everyday life

If you are a coach, take a moment to think about how coaching skills can be applied broadly to the full range of our everyday life relationships. We can use coaching skills to good effect with our friends, our spouses, our children, and even just in everyday...
Lenten Series Week 5- Barnabas and Asking Good Questions

Lenten Series Week 5- Barnabas and Asking Good Questions

A Barnabas is someone who asks good questions and sometimes that makes all the difference. I was listening to someone recently who was upset about a particular situation. He’d been venting for a while, when I asked, “What do you want?” “What I want is for [coworker]...
Christmas shopping? Consider Becoming Barnabas

Christmas shopping? Consider Becoming Barnabas

If so, check out my latest book: Becoming Barnabas. This would make a great Christmas present. Becoming Barnabas is a book designed for ordinary people– short and eminently readable– that drills down in practical ways on communication skills in the church...

A yearlong experiment

I conducted an experiment for one year (although with humans, not guinea pigs). The goal was to not answer people’s questions directly, but to first ask, “What do you think?” I would listen, summarize without evaluating or interpreting. Then I’d invite them to...

Four steps to uncovering the pain in your church

Why look for the pain? The point of pain is where the power of the gospel is at its strongest.  Only when we find the pain (and it IS there) can we move toward healing. Four steps to uncovering the pain: Listen. Prayerfully listen to what people are saying. What are...

Three simple questions to transform your group

Are you leading a group?  Most Christian leaders are facilitating a group of some kind. Why not try something different to breathe some new life into it?  Try asking these three questions of the people in your group: • How are you experiencing God? • How is God...

Take the 30-day challenge

For the next 30 days, every time someone asks you an advice-type question, instead of giving them an answer, them this question: “What do you think?” Then discipline yourself to simply listen and help them unpack their thoughts. When I tried this experiment myself, I...